Posted August 2, 2021 in Podcast
Time is a Currency with Jeff Lopes
When you hear the phrase “work-life rhythm”, what is your reaction? Do you scoff? Do you nod? Or maybe you shrug your shoulders because you don’t believe it’s achievable?
Maybe you want to spend more time with your family and hobbies, but you don’t know how to reshuffle your schedule and prioritize the “life” part of this “work-life rhythm”. You’ve tried and failed.
My guest today experienced the same thing. He was making a lot of money for his family, but until his wake up call came in the form of an emergency that nearly claimed the life of his wife and second child, he says he hardly had time for his family
Now he owns his own business and builds his schedule around his family. Time with them has become non-negotiable.
Friends, I’m so excited to have Jeff Lopes on the Reaching Beyond podcast to share his story with you all. His perspective on how best to spend our time and energy is truly refreshing. In this episode, we discuss his family story, how he pivoted from workaholic to entrepreneur dad, and how he lives his life with intention and peace.
Who is Jeff Lopes?
Jeff Lopes hails from Toronto, Canada, and is a proud father of two, a husband, and an entrepreneur for the past 25 years. Jeff has founded numerous companies including seven- and eight-figure corporations. Included in these is TrueBlue Homes: a portfolio of vacation rental properties across the northern parts of Ontario, and Kimurawear: a boxing and martial arts equipment brand that was founded in early 2006 out of his own basement.
Jeff is currently the host of a top-rated entrepreneurial podcast called Jeff Knows Inc. Over the past four years, he has coached countless entrepreneurs in balancing the obstacles of parenthood and entrepreneurship, and in achieving a higher level of success in both areas. As a Fitness Leadership College Graduate, a certified NLP master and life coach, and a best-selling author of the book Entrepreneur Dad, Jeff has taken all his experiences to create Man’s Purpose Community, the fastest-growing community of entrepreneur dads on the planet.
I met Jeff through a mutual friend, and I have also been on his podcast. I love his perspective on the balance needed to be a present father, husband, and entrepreneur. Let’s dive in.
Scheduling Around Your Purpose
When Jeff learned that his son was diagnosed with cerebral palsy when he was just a few months old, he had a renewed purpose in his life. The doctors said he may never walk or run, and would probably be in either a wheelchair or leg braces for the rest of his life. Jeff refused to believe these claims, and was committed to helping his son walk every day. In doing so, he also made the commitment to building a relationship with his wife, and spending time with his daughter.
“I learned how to put the non-negotiables in my schedule before anything else. Family time was my time block, and I would build my business around that. Then, when I sat there and looked at my schedule, I’m like, okay, I don’t have enough time in a day. I had to decide what I needed to sacrifice.” – Jeff Lopes
He decided that he would wake up at 4:30 in the morning and get a ton of stuff done before 9:00. He didn’t like waking up early; in fact, he absolutely hated it. But this schedule allowed him to be home from 3-7 pm every day. Those hours are always family time, and he is very proud of the fact that he sits at the dinner table with his wife and kids every single night, Monday through Friday. For the past 11 years, he hasn’t missed a night.
He believed that one day, his son would be able to run a marathon with him. He wrote encouraging words on paper and posted them all over his son’s bedroom walls. Eventually, not only was his son able to walk — he could run, too. Recently, he ran alongside his father all the way to the finish line of their first marathon.
The lesson? Surround yourself with good people like Jeff who are going to encourage you and be a positive light in your life, and never listen to the voices in your head telling you you can’t do something, when, in your heart, you know you can.
Of course, achieving a dream like running a marathon — especially when it’s uniquely challenging for you the way it might have been for Jeff’s son — mean you’ll have to make time to progress towards your goals, no matter what. But for so many of us, our schedules can get completely packed with all sorts of meetings and engagements that stress us out more than they reward us.
Jeff explains that if your schedule is too jammed to make progress towards your goals, then study your schedule and figure out what should come out of it — or who should come out of it. Identify the people in your life that are draining you, and make the cut.
“I do a dump every three to six months. I look at my inner circle, my life, and the people around me, and figure out which people are really wasting my time. I’ll literally cut them out of my life and only focus on the people that are going to bring me energy.” – Jeff Lopes
Multitask Smarter — Not Harder
You might feel a little stressed when you hear the word “multitasking” — perhaps because you do it every day already — but Jeff proposes that you can crush the multitasking game by joining all of your non-negotiable tasks together.
“I am a strong believer that you can balance, and have a good family life and a good business life. It’s just that people have a really hard time understanding what the word balance means, but I believe you can have a balance.” – Jeff Lopes
Jeff multitasks a lot. It allows more freedom for his time. Whenever he has white spaces on his schedule, he utilizes those spaces for calling loved ones he hasn’t talked to in awhile. He also kills two birds with one stone by having family time and exercise time at the same time.
“When I get home, we do an hour and a half to two hour outdoor activity every single day as a family. We will go for a bike ride, a hunt, or take the kids to the park. The other day, we literally had family races and my wife and I were sprinting each other. That’s multitasking: we are doing something healthy, we’re bonding, and we’re spending time with the kids.” – Jeff Lopes
It’s really the simple things in life that can be the most profound. What Jeff is suggesting isn’t complicated — it’s just living with intention, and protecting your time and energy like the gold that it is.
The other thing Jeff does is take a “vacation” for 15 to 20 minutes every day. During that time, he does something he really loves. He encourages everyone to have a daily vacation where they invest in a passion or hobby. That short amount of time each day pays out dividends in mental health rewards and, according to Jeff, promotes a profound feeling of purpose. Try it!
Jeff knows from experience that taking care of your own health is the most important thing you can do. You’re never going to be able to take care of everyone around you if you’re not healthy. And if you’re constantly giving to others without filling your cup, you’ll burn out eventually. Avoid burnout and take care of yourself. It’s actually the most generous thing you can do for the people you love.
Writing a Living Eulogy
Another activity Jeff encourages everyone to do in order to better understand whether or not they’re living out their purpose is to write a living eulogy. It’s a powerful exercise to understand how you want to truly live, and to reflect on your life. Are you passionate about your job? Do you have time to spend with your kids and the people you truly love, or are you wasting time on things like social media? Are you living the way you want to live?
Jeff believes too many people are walking through life numb, and then they have regrets on their deathbed. Imagine looking back on your life. Would you be happy with how it is right now if today was your last day?
“Make sure everything in your life has the purpose of making you a better person, and that you are serving others and helping them along the journey. You can live a whole life having everything in the world, but if you haven’t helped others along the journey to success, you’re going to feel unfulfilled at the end of the day.” – Jeff Lopes
Another piece of advice Jeff has is to slow down your pace of life so you have the time to look around, reflect, and love yourself. It’s hard to love what you’re doing if you don’t love yourself first.
Why You Should Listen to This Podcast Episode with Jeff Lopes Right Now…
Guys, this interview with Jeff Lopes is packed with wisdom — especially for those of you who want to prioritize what matters and live with intention. There are so many nuggets that you can take from this interview to increase your motivation, avoid burnout, and pursue your passion.
Before I end, I want to share something Jeff said that really stuck out to me. I asked him who was the biggest influence in his life. This was his answer:
“When I sat back and thought of my dad, I realized that he was a blue collar, hardworking guy working at Ford Motors. He could have had so much more, because back then, you were making great money working at Ford Motors. But he never worked a weekend, and never worked overtime. He would finish a shift to come home to the family. He would never miss a sporting event — it was always about the family. So he could have had nicer cars, a nicer house, nicer everything, but he didn’t want that. It was all about family time, and he understood that.” – Jeff Lopes
His dad’s dedication to family has inspired everything that Jeff does today. He believes strong fathers create strong communities and raise up world-changers for the next generation. I can’t wait to hear about where his life and business lead him next!
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Cheers to your success! I’m rooting for you.