Posted November 30, 2020 in Podcast
You Always Have a Minimum of Two Choices with Brian Bogert
Have you ever wanted to become the most authentic version of yourself and achieve success in both your business and personal life?
People often face barriers to their success and authenticity that they may not even be aware of. Something in their past or present may be keeping them from taking control of their life and becoming the best version of themselves. My guest today knows all about how you can take control of your life and overcome the barriers to your success.
Today, I’m excited to have Brian Bogert on The Reaching Beyond podcast. Brian is a human behavior and performance coach that helps individuals and companies become limitless. In this episode, we’re talking all about how Brian’s childhood trauma shaped his coaching philosophy, the importance of embracing pain to avoid suffering, and how you can achieve success in every area of your life. Let’s dive in!
Who Is Brian Bogert?
Brian Bogert is a human behavior and performance coach specializing in teaching a holistic approach to becoming your most authentic self. He’s helped a variety of successful individuals not only increase their finances and expand their businesses but also helps them reach success in their personal lives. He helps individuals grow in their purpose and challenges them to become better than they ever thought possible.
He also teaches the importance of accepting changes and embracing pain in order to avoid suffering. Brian developed the ability to adapt and embrace pain to avoid suffering at an incredibly young age. When he was seven years old, he was run over by a truck that tore open his spleen and completely detached his left arm from his body. Thankfully, surgeons were able to reattach the arm through many surgeries, but he still grew up with a deformed arm and an incredibly traumatic experience. Despite his injury, Brian remained physically active, and he didn’t let the incident slow him down on his path to success. He learned incredibly valuable lessons from his childhood trauma that shaped his life, and today, he’s going to tell you all about it and so much more!
Experiencing Extreme Tragedy and Trauma
The tragic accident that almost ended Brian’s life occurred outside of a Walmart in Phoenix, Arizona. Brian, his mother, and his brother were returning to their vehicle when the incident occurred. Brian ran up to the car but was unable to get inside because his mother had the key. During this time, a driver parked his truck in front of the Walmart. After the man exited the vehicle, his passenger felt the truck moving backward. The passenger quickly attempted to stop the truck by slamming his foot on the brakes, but he mistakenly hit the gas instead. The sudden force pushed the passenger onto the dashboard, and the truck began barreling into the parking lot.
“Before you know it, he was catapulting across the parking lot [at] 40 miles an hour right at us with no time to react. … [The truck] went up and over … the median, hit our car, knocked me down, ran over me diagonally, tore my spleen … and then continued on to completely separate my left arm from my body. … My mom and my brother watched the entire thing happen. And there I am laying in the parking lot on 115-degree day in Phoenix, Arizona with my arm ten feet away.” – Brian Bogert
Brian suffered an unimaginable injury that could have easily killed him, but thankfully for Brian, a nurse was walking out of the store when the incident occurred. She rushed over to Brian and stopped the bleeding of his primary wound. She also instructed other witnesses to grab ice and a cooler from the Walmart so that they could save Brian’s arm.
“If she had not done either or both of those things, I either wouldn’t be here with you today, or I’d be here with you today with a cleaned-up stump. Like that’s just the reality of it. And so she not only saved my life, but she saved my arm because of her fast action.” – Brian Bogert
Brian describes the nurse that saved him as his guardian angel. He was incredibly blessed to have had someone so competent and fast-acting witness the scene.
After the incident, Brian went through years of surgeries and physical therapy. It took tireless work for Brian to regain normal function in his arm, but he was ultimately able to do it through hard work and never giving up.
Embracing Pain to Avoid Suffering
Brian learned many lessons from his tragic accident that shaped him into the man he is now, and they also shaped his performance-coach philosophy.
“I learned not to get stuck by what had happened to me, but instead get moved by what I could do with it.” – Brian Bogert
Rather than letting the accident debilitate him for the rest of his life, Brian focused on what he could control. He moved on from the incident and focused on working hard to heal from his injuries, and he was eventually able to fully recover and regain full motor function in his left arm.
Brian expressed the importance of taking control of your situation rather than letting yourself be a victim of your circumstances.
“We have a society that likes to point blame instead of [taking] ownership. … Being a victim often is a choice. Things can happen to us, right? That’s life. Life is going to knock us to the ground, but it’s our choice on how we respond.” – Brian Bogert
Difficult and tragic things will inevitably happen to you in your life, but you don’t have to be the victim — you can decide to focus on what you can control and how you respond.
While Brian was healing and working hard to recover from his injury, he discovered a philosophy that molded his life: He learned to embrace pain in order to avoid suffering. He learned this philosophy by seeing how his parents dealt with his injury:
“The idea of seeing their son grow up without the use of his left arm was a source of great suffering for them. And so they literally willed themselves day in and day out to do what was necessary [and] what was tough. [They] embraced the pain of doing what was necessary to heal me, so they could avoid the suffering of not seeing me be able to use my arm later in life. And so whether it was intentional or not, they engraved in me a philosophy and a way of living, which was to embrace pain to avoid suffering.” – Brian Bogert
Brian’s parents embraced the pain of doing whatever was necessary to heal him. He now teaches his philosophy of embracing pain in order to avoid suffering in his coaching.
“When [embracing pain to avoid suffering] is done right, I believe that’s where we also start to gain freedom. So it’s the same concept that I used to not only overcome this unique injury, but [it’s] how my business partners and I built our last business from nothing to over 15 million in revenue within the span of a decade. And now I flipped that on its head as a human behavior and performance coach to help hundreds of individuals … become more aware, more intentional, and [discover] who they already are themselves. So I think that’s when the magic happens and the door begins to crack to perspective, motivation, and direction.” – Brian Bogert
Brian works to help people become more authentic versions of themselves and helps them realize that they’re limitless. Have you ever had difficulty embracing pain to bring out the best in yourself? Maybe pain in your context means tireless work or getting out of your comfort zone to grow your company or thrive in your career. You might experience discomfort when you’re working to bring out the best in yourself, but creating success in the different areas of your life requires hard work and perseverance. Start embracing pain to become your most authentic self so that you can create lifelong success!
Being Successful Outside of Your Business
“Success” does not mean only thriving in your finances and career. You need to be successful in your personal life and your personal development to truly experience fulfillment.
Brian stressed the importance of being successful in every area of your life. Over the years, he found that many of his clients were effective at achieving business success, but they struggled heavily in other areas of their lives.
“It became very apparent that on paper, there [were] a lot of people that were very successful financially in business [and] material things, … but so many of them were miserable. … They hadn’t really gotten to the root of who they are, and they hadn’t gotten to the root of really understanding their emotional triggers and their behavioral patterns.” – Brian Bogert
Even though many of the people Brian worked with were conventionally successful, they were unhappy with their lives. They cared about their families and their communities, but they couldn’t bring themselves to take action and improve their relationships with others because of their brokenness. Brian also experienced a period of his life in which he pursued and achieved wealth but felt empty:
“I chased the money for a while to prove that I could. I chased the wrong things. I made decisions that made me somebody that I wasn’t so that I could blend in and fit into that successful crowd that I was running with. … Then I became broken.” – Brian Bogert
Brian learned from his experiences and began focusing on improving himself and his relationships with others. He now uses what he learned from experience to help others improve every area of their lives.
“What I do is I help people break beyond their own boundaries. I help people get unstuck. I help people really accomplish and reach their potential in their life. … Because so often what we find is what keeps people in that self-defeating path isn’t bad strategy, [and it] isn’t bad tactics. Most people can master those. It’s literally something that they might be blind to that’s preventing action.” – Brian Bogert
Brian helps people overcome barriers that they may not even be aware of. One of his clients was a 68-year-old man who struggled to maintain a healthy relationship with his wife and daughters. Brian uncovered that the man’s problem stemmed from a self-worth issue that he had struggled with his entire life. The man had no clue that he even had this issue, but it was the root problem causing the strain in his personal relationships. Once the man worked with Brian to address his self-worth issues, he started growing and healing his relationships and began creating success in his personal life.
In addition to strengthening your relationships with others, it’s also crucial to strengthen your relationship with yourself. Taking the time to reflect and build yourself up is essential for improving every area of your life. Brian observed that when we get busy, it’s often very difficult to create time for ourselves.
“The easiest appointment to cancel is the one with yourself. … But if you don’t stay committed to that … you’re going to be limited in your growth.” – Brian Bogert
Investing the time to reflect and grow is essential for your success and relationships with others. Are you taking the time to reflect and improve yourself? Maybe you should journal or meditate in order to reflect on your life and yourself. A tool that Brian has found incredibly valuable is sensory deprivation tanks. He stays in the tank for two and a half hours, and then he journals everything that he contemplated while in the tank. Regardless of how you choose to spend time with your thoughts, you can use self-reflection to grow in your understanding of yourself and perhaps even uncover some of the barriers keeping you from being your best!
Reaching Beyond with Brian Bogert
Guys, my conversation with Brian Bogert was absolutely incredible. His story of his tragic accident and his philosophy that emerged from it is inspiring, and his focus on creating success in our personal and internal lives is absolutely critical for establishing a healthy work-life rhythm.
If you’re interested in learning more from Brian, make sure to check out his website. He also has a video series on YouTube titled Bogert’s Bullets, where he releases weekly videos all about mindset and self-improvement. You should also check out Nolimitsprelude.com, where Brian and his team give a free summary of their coaching philosophies and advice for overcoming the barriers in your life!
One final word I would like to leave you from Brian involves his definition of success, and it reflects his emphasis on creating success in every area of your life rather than just business or material success:
“[Success is] joy, freedom, and fulfillment.” – Brian Bogert
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Cheers to your success! I’m rooting for you.